diff --git a/app.py b/app.py
index f51f0b1..2259102 100644
--- a/app.py
+++ b/app.py
@@ -60,6 +60,7 @@ from core.meta import by_object_id
 from core.meta import by_remote_id
 from core.meta import by_type
 from core.meta import by_visibility
+from core.meta import follow_request_accepted
 from core.meta import in_inbox
 from core.meta import in_outbox
 from core.meta import is_public
@@ -145,6 +146,7 @@ def inject_config():
     following_q = {
         **in_outbox(),
         **by_type(ActivityType.FOLLOW),
+        **follow_request_accepted(),
         **not_undo(),
         **not_deleted(),
     }
@@ -849,7 +851,13 @@ def followers():
 
 @app.route("/following")
 def following():
-    q = {**in_outbox(), **by_type(ActivityType.FOLLOW), **not_undo()}
+    q = {
+        **in_outbox(),
+        **by_type(ActivityType.FOLLOW),
+        **not_deleted(),
+        **follow_request_accepted(),
+        **not_undo(),
+    }
 
     if is_api_request():
         _log_sig()
diff --git a/blueprints/admin.py b/blueprints/admin.py
index 5486896..6d51602 100644
--- a/blueprints/admin.py
+++ b/blueprints/admin.py
@@ -379,6 +379,7 @@ def admin_notifications() -> _Response:
         "activity.object": {"$regex": f"^{config.BASE_URL}"},
     }
     followed_query = {"type": ap.ActivityType.ACCEPT.value}
+    rejected_query = {"type": ap.ActivityType.REJECT.value}
     q = {
         "box": Box.INBOX.value,
         "$or": [
@@ -387,6 +388,7 @@ def admin_notifications() -> _Response:
             replies_query,
             new_followers_query,
             followed_query,
+            rejected_query,
             unfollow_query,
             likes_query,
         ],
diff --git a/core/inbox.py b/core/inbox.py
index 939f2f0..93cace5 100644
--- a/core/inbox.py
+++ b/core/inbox.py
@@ -176,15 +176,10 @@ def _follow_process_inbox(activity: ap.Follow, new_meta: _NewMeta) -> None:
     post_to_outbox(accept)
 
 
-def _update_follow_status(follow: ap.BaseActivity, status: FollowStatus) -> None:
-    if not follow.has_type(ap.Follow) or not is_from_outbox(follow):
-        _logger.warning(
-            "received an Accept/Reject from an unexpected activity: {follow!r}"
-        )
-        return None
-
+def _update_follow_status(follow_id: str, status: FollowStatus) -> None:
+    _logger.info(f"{follow_id} is {status}")
     update_one_activity(
-        by_remote_id(follow.id), upsert({MetaKey.FOLLOW_STATUS: status.value})
+        by_remote_id(follow_id), upsert({MetaKey.FOLLOW_STATUS: status.value})
     )
 
 
@@ -192,14 +187,14 @@ def _update_follow_status(follow: ap.BaseActivity, status: FollowStatus) -> None
 def _accept_process_inbox(activity: ap.Accept, new_meta: _NewMeta) -> None:
     _logger.info(f"process_inbox activity={activity!r}")
     # Set a flag on the follow
-    follow = activity.get_object()
+    follow = activity.get_object_id()
     _update_follow_status(follow, FollowStatus.ACCEPTED)
 
 
 @process_inbox.register
 def _reject_process_inbox(activity: ap.Reject, new_meta: _NewMeta) -> None:
     _logger.info(f"process_inbox activity={activity!r}")
-    follow = activity.get_object()
+    follow = activity.get_object_id()
     _update_follow_status(follow, FollowStatus.REJECTED)